Recently I have seen a number of newspaper articles discussing the increase of depression in the middle class. There has also been an increase in the use of drugs in a number of new areas across the country. What’s happening?
This topic may surprise some readers of this blog. Most of you know me as: Irene Pollin, wife of Abe Pollin and sports team co-owner with Abe. But another part of my life has been spent as a psychotherapist, social worker for forty two years!
Today I’d like to give my diagnosis of the problem. Of course, part of it is economic; we are in the beginning of a major economic transition.
But, since I am not an economist (my son Robert is), I will offer my take on one source of the problem.
I believe part of the depression is due to “life” as it is today, and current expectations. Until we lower our expectations recognizing the reality of life today, many of us will be depressed. When the reality hits that our expectations are not going to be realized, then we will be disappointed.
Fortunately, we have it in our power to control it. If we can begin to make the adjustment of our goals, we can be more content.
Let’s use me as an example: I am a perfectionist! I have always set very high goals and I have worked hard to achieve most of them. I am also, I discovered, a perfectionist in a hurry.
And, that is not a good combination. Speed + perfectionism don’t go well together.
But I have also learned that if I adjust my goals, I don’t get disappointed, or depressed.